I do get the idea to say I have to call my dad more often.
But also, isn't there a larger societal, gender thing here? Why is it the child's responsability? The study was conducted for 18-34 years old, if the people are still in college or something of the sort they're still for the most part under the authority of their parents.
Why don't dads call? What made them feel less involded? Did they do stuff when they were with their kids to have a connection between them that could last even when they're away (college or their own home with their own kids)? The study shows they want a better connection, cool. Do they try?
Dads, at least in the western culture I'm familiar with, have always been placed seconds in the care of their children. But also, dads don't want to take over and assume the role that the mom has in most homes.
Take a moment : how many stay at home moms do you know? How many stay at home dads? How much did your dad do at home?
It's not even really the case with my dad but lets please change the narrative : dads, CALL YOUR KIDS
Yes! That was exactly what I was going to say. My mom used to complain that her mom always expected her to be the one to make all the effort. Now, guess what our dynamic is! I will say she’s better than her mom was with her. She visits us more than the other way around (it’s hard with little kids!) But I just got a call from her with attitude for not calling. The phone works both ways!
I do get the idea to say I have to call my dad more often.
But also, isn't there a larger societal, gender thing here? Why is it the child's responsability? The study was conducted for 18-34 years old, if the people are still in college or something of the sort they're still for the most part under the authority of their parents.
Why don't dads call? What made them feel less involded? Did they do stuff when they were with their kids to have a connection between them that could last even when they're away (college or their own home with their own kids)? The study shows they want a better connection, cool. Do they try?
Dads, at least in the western culture I'm familiar with, have always been placed seconds in the care of their children. But also, dads don't want to take over and assume the role that the mom has in most homes.
Take a moment : how many stay at home moms do you know? How many stay at home dads? How much did your dad do at home?
It's not even really the case with my dad but lets please change the narrative : dads, CALL YOUR KIDS
Agree!! Dads! Call your kids!!
Alternatively: call your children.
Yes! That was exactly what I was going to say. My mom used to complain that her mom always expected her to be the one to make all the effort. Now, guess what our dynamic is! I will say she’s better than her mom was with her. She visits us more than the other way around (it’s hard with little kids!) But I just got a call from her with attitude for not calling. The phone works both ways!
100%. My parents expect us to call them/text them/etc. they are retired. I have 3 kids, job, dog…
What a gem from your husband 😂 And what a great newsletter! All of it succinct and useful. Thank you!
I’d love to participate in your research roundup!
Your response to your husband was much more restrained than mine would have been (it would have involved a lot more taunting and disco ball emojis) 🪩
Your husband forwarding you your own study made my day. 😂