As a long time reader of both technosapiens, the new fatherhood, and a fatherhood writer myself, I love how much positive energy this book brings. I hope it becomes one of those books to help alot of dads find their way into becoming the parent they want to be but never had the toolkit to make it there.
Great to find an author writing about modern fatherhood. I am absolutely a huge part of my children's emotional life. I am the chief comforter. I am in bed with each of them every night. While I have to be at work a lot, I spend 3 full days each week as primary carer and it shows! They treat me the same as their mum - as a primary source of security and comfort. So much of dad culture is lame avoidance. While there's 100% a unique approach to being a dad vs mum given biology differences and tendencies toward certain roles, it's no less involved if you want to engage. I am glad someone is writing about it.
I intuitively got to it but only after near lethal car crash. I still don't remind myself enough how brief our time here is.
In a separate note. I wonder what you think about results of 2016 UCI study by Judith Treas and Giulia M. Dotti Sani.
They noticed that from 1965 to 2012, despite more mothers working, direct time spent on child care doubled for mothers and quadrippled for fathers. We should celebrate but parents are more than ever stressed and burnt out.
As a long time reader of both technosapiens, the new fatherhood, and a fatherhood writer myself, I love how much positive energy this book brings. I hope it becomes one of those books to help alot of dads find their way into becoming the parent they want to be but never had the toolkit to make it there.
Great to find an author writing about modern fatherhood. I am absolutely a huge part of my children's emotional life. I am the chief comforter. I am in bed with each of them every night. While I have to be at work a lot, I spend 3 full days each week as primary carer and it shows! They treat me the same as their mum - as a primary source of security and comfort. So much of dad culture is lame avoidance. While there's 100% a unique approach to being a dad vs mum given biology differences and tendencies toward certain roles, it's no less involved if you want to engage. I am glad someone is writing about it.
Thank you. We all need this.
My favourite is The Last Time Meditation.
I intuitively got to it but only after near lethal car crash. I still don't remind myself enough how brief our time here is.
In a separate note. I wonder what you think about results of 2016 UCI study by Judith Treas and Giulia M. Dotti Sani.
They noticed that from 1965 to 2012, despite more mothers working, direct time spent on child care doubled for mothers and quadrippled for fathers. We should celebrate but parents are more than ever stressed and burnt out.
Nice post. I actually wrote this for my son who turned 23 this past weekend. https://rudajev.substack.com/p/episode-23-the-18-things-i-hope-you?r=1uglxj
Thank you for posting this interview! What a great new book! A very affirming approach to fatherhood. I will be sharing with other dads I know.