Re: footnote 6: Uggghhhhh the signup windows and the web sites from 1998!!!!!!! WHY?! I feel you.
Unqualified advice based on an anecdote from one person's life: I never had a problem sleeping in my life until a couple years into a really stressful job. When I quit the job, my sleep got better. Everyone quit your job! You can just do that, right? Right?!
99% of any insomnia I experience right now is due to anxiety over children activities signups. DID IT HAPPEN AND I MISSED IT?! DID I CLICK ON THE CORRECT SESSION FROM THE LIST OF 842?!
In the middle of very difficult period in our life, my husband and I started to read travel books out loud to each other before we turned out the lights. We are not big travelers, but have, over the years, traveled up and down the Amazon, paddled around Alaska, crossed the Sahara, climbed the Himalayas, and gone on many journeys together. We have also found this a very soothing before bed ritual. You can stop anywhere (or fall asleep while partner is reading) and not lose the plot, it provides a kind of intimacy that helps repair some of the stresses of the day that are pushing you apart, and it definitely helped us both go to sleep.
We have a new rule about not talking about politics or work in the bedroom after a 11pm
argument about whether it’s economically/environmentally better to drive our civic til it dies or replace with an electric. (Drive it til it dies, clearly...)
My son has a soothing (for him) routine of audiobook, made up story, happy thoughts, and song. It’s a palaver but he goes to sleep 5 minutes after that.
I always ask my husband existential questions right before sleep, he “loves it” and finds it very relaxing when I wake him up just as he’s falling asleep. I also remember stupid grocery list items, work to do’s and random kid related things as well.
Yes! This is so important. I'm better at doing this with my kid (making him unplug and go to bed) than I am with myself, and the consequences are always unpleasant.
Re: footnote 6: Uggghhhhh the signup windows and the web sites from 1998!!!!!!! WHY?! I feel you.
Unqualified advice based on an anecdote from one person's life: I never had a problem sleeping in my life until a couple years into a really stressful job. When I quit the job, my sleep got better. Everyone quit your job! You can just do that, right? Right?!
the signup windows! WHY.
99% of any insomnia I experience right now is due to anxiety over children activities signups. DID IT HAPPEN AND I MISSED IT?! DID I CLICK ON THE CORRECT SESSION FROM THE LIST OF 842?!
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In the middle of very difficult period in our life, my husband and I started to read travel books out loud to each other before we turned out the lights. We are not big travelers, but have, over the years, traveled up and down the Amazon, paddled around Alaska, crossed the Sahara, climbed the Himalayas, and gone on many journeys together. We have also found this a very soothing before bed ritual. You can stop anywhere (or fall asleep while partner is reading) and not lose the plot, it provides a kind of intimacy that helps repair some of the stresses of the day that are pushing you apart, and it definitely helped us both go to sleep.
this sounds absolutely delightful
We have a new rule about not talking about politics or work in the bedroom after a 11pm
argument about whether it’s economically/environmentally better to drive our civic til it dies or replace with an electric. (Drive it til it dies, clearly...)
My son has a soothing (for him) routine of audiobook, made up story, happy thoughts, and song. It’s a palaver but he goes to sleep 5 minutes after that.
thats amazing! I love the "happy thoughts" part of the routine!!
I always ask my husband existential questions right before sleep, he “loves it” and finds it very relaxing when I wake him up just as he’s falling asleep. I also remember stupid grocery list items, work to do’s and random kid related things as well.
so glad I'm not alone!
Ha! My wife seems to think that discussing federal politics or the latest covid info is effective foreplay...
Yes! This is so important. I'm better at doing this with my kid (making him unplug and go to bed) than I am with myself, and the consequences are always unpleasant.
I know - so hard to stick to our own rules!!